Life Lessons Learned in 2009

31 12 2009

The list of what I have done is too long and no one wants to read a self-congratulatory “look-at-me” list. But I hope you will reflect on your year and challenge yourself to do more in the coming year.  I have had the best 2 years of my life, single and fancy free. So what have I learned in the past year:

1) “Luxury is Artificial Poverty.” ~Socrates; Having fancy things and everything catered to you is not all it is cracked up to be.  Being rich and famous is much like being a caged bird. Really, if you have nothing, you have nothing to hold you back.  Only keep or concern yourself with things that are actually important in your life… in mine: family and friends. Everything else is dispensible and merely for entertainment value.

2) My family is truly my inspiration. I used to think they held me back. Now I see my family allowed me the room to grow. I felt behind the curve because none of them had a college degree and could help or understand my endeavors.  When in fact a family’s unwavering support was always a 100 times more valuable than their help.

3)  Education is a necessary evil. It often holds us back but it also gives us a facility to learn things that may improve the quality of our life.  Always question what you learn. “Believe none of what you hear and half of what you see.” ~Benjamin Franklin

4) Stop listening to the noise of other people telling you the way it has to be  or how to live happy… most of those people aren’t themselves. Even if it is family and friends telling you that you need to get a “new” purse/tv/crap, you should slow down or that working your life away is a neccessary evil…. Drum to your own beat. Don’t listen!

5) “Stuff” holds no value in my life…people do. If you are working to buy big tvs, designer purses, and cars you may need to re-evaluate something. I only see people, intimacy, love, laughter, conversation and learning.

6) He’s just not that into you… and frankly my dear, you’re not that into him either. I have learned to recognize when my ego gets in the way of my rationality in men.  If he is not actively pursuing you or is with anyone else he is not that into you.  Period.  It is not because he is busy.  Men will put you in their life if you are worth their time.  And again, often times you are not that into him either, your ego is…

7) Your relationships should not be love/ hate or hold you back.  I think the best relationships are the ones that allow both people the room to grow.  I had a 4.5 year and 1+ relationships, etc. like this and I have had very short ones that were love/hate.  I know the former can be done and is much more fullfilling. My parents and grandparents have been good models for me… the best kind of love is that which grows.  The same goes with friendship.

8 ) Reject Social Stigma against Women by good example not with combatant words. Women can fly airplanes and design them. Women can enjoy sex.  Women can be smart, sexy and fun. Women don’t have to be a bitch to get respect. Focus your energy on the right people and don’t try to please those unworthy.

SpaceShipTwo Unveil – VSS Enterprise

10 12 2009

So how did I get invited to such a high-profile event? Well someone pretty cool discovered my last blog. 😀 hehe. I don’t like to get too wordy but what a great opportunity to be at the release of the first Commercial Spacecraft. WOW.  I was inspired if nothing else. I talked to so many amazing people, the pilots, the engineers, entrepreneurs, authors, and well even…. socialites (people who carry their own camera crew…haha).  I  didn’t get to talk to Arnold Schwarzenegger; he was ultra protected from really interacting with anyone.  I probably would have been too nervous to approach him anyways…haha.  He was definitely the most “entertaining” speaker of the night.  Ended with “I’ll be back!” Of course I got a picture with my man Sir Richard Branson 😉  Here is my Photo/Video Blog:

Richard now kissing the Governor of New Mexico’s butt 😀 hehe

Arnold Schwarzenegger

These videos make my heart race a little now…at that moment I was freezing to death

Virgin Galactic is definitely a good insurance policy for aspiring Astronauts 😀

A huge thanks to all the pilots, engineers, entrepreneurs who make wonderful things like space flight happen.  You are my heroes 😀

And a special thanks to my new friend Craig Wichner and future Astronaut.  You are the best!

The End (hehhehehe) -Richard Branson’s Butt

Sir Richard Branson

24 11 2009

Richard Branson arrives at Air Venture with White Knight II

Sir Richard Branson comments he got the first ride because he is the Virgin 😀

Rich Branson kisses Burt Rutan

Pretty much the least fashionable and happiest day of my life 😀

My pics from inside the cockpit (check out the Simpson sticker):

My New Ride Home 😀

I had at least 5 sales guys at Oshkosh say to me (like I was a little girl): “I bet you want to learn to fly now.” No Mo**** F***** I know how to fly! :-p  See if I ever buy a plane from you 😀 Not sure whether to correct them, slap them, or smile and be a “lady” 😀

21 Suggestions for Success in Life

24 10 2009

21 Suggestions for Success by H. Jackson Brown….

  1. Marry the right person. This one decision will determine 90% of your happiness or misery.
  2. Work at something you enjoy and that’s worthy of your time and talent.
  3. Give people more than they expect and do it cheerfully.
  4. Become the most positive and enthusiastic person you know.
  5. Be forgiving of yourself and others.
  6. Be generous.
  7. Have a grateful heart.
  8. Persistence, persistence, persistence.
  9. Discipline yourself to save money on even the most modest salary.
  10. Treat everyone you meet like you want to be treated.
  11. Commit yourself to constant improvement.
  12. Commit yourself to quality.
  13. Understand that happiness is not based on possessions, power or prestige, but on relationships with people you love and respect.
  14. Be loyal.
  15. Be honest.
  16. Be a self-starter.
  17. Be decisive even if it means you’ll sometimes be wrong.
  18. Stop blaming others. Take responsibility for every area of your life.
  19. Be bold and courageous. When you look back on your life, you’ll regret the things you didn’t do more than the ones you did.
  20. Take good care of those you love.
  21. Don’t do anything that wouldn’t make your Mom proud.

50 things you should be doing to be Productive in your Life!

23 10 2009
  1. Keep discovering who you are: Get engaged in self discovery by knowing your passion, temperaments, skills, abilities, finding out your purpose………
  2. Observe Some Me Time: Give yourself some me time. It must be all about you for a little period. Create time for yourself. It’s not being selfish.  Do things to make you happy.
  3. Avoid Making Comparisons: Avoid making too many comparisons with other people (friends, family etc).Remember we are individuals with different backgrounds, upbringing and each one of us is unique in our own way.
  4. Face Your Fears: Face your fears knowing, it only becomes a problem, when you can’t stand up to the pressures that come your way.
  5. Think: Stop for a moment to think. Think before carrying out any actions. Think before you speak. Think about yourself, friends, family, work….. As Christopher Robin (Winnie The Pooh) would say ‘Think Think Think’.
  6. Develop your skills: Don’t be satisfied with the level of skills, talents and abilities you possess. There is always room for improvement and personal development.
  7. Plan: Give your life some order and structure by planning. It helps to have a routine in certain areas of your life. Plan for your present  and the future.
  8. Implementing Your Plans: It’s not just thinking or planning alone.  You also need to implement your strategies. Take positive actions that would have an impact on your life/future.
  9. Doing something new: This is slightly different from the tip above. This involves you taking risks, being open to challenges, trying out new ideas, stepping carefully away from your comfort zone….
  10. Sharpen Your Brain: Solve some mathematics, crossword puzzles, brain training games etc.
  11. Set Targets: Set realistic targets for your life and strive to attain them.
  12. Pursue Knowledge: You can gain constructive knowledge through several avenues such as the media (newspapers, television, radios…), blogs, books, schools, friends, colleagues etc.
  13. Work on your vices: Work hard in replacing your bad habits, character flaws, negative thoughts, low self esteem etc. with positive ideals.
  14. Stop Talking: At times you need to keep quiet and listen to your thoughts. Try as much as possible to think before talking. Be careful of the things you say, when you say it and how you say it. I am not sure it’s cool being a TALKATIVE.
  15. Start Listening: Spend some time listening to people, understanding how they feel. You can also listen to various inspirational speakers to motivate you for the day.
  16. Use Your Imagination: Have a creative imagination. Imagine a bright and positive future ahead of you.
  17. Energy drainers: Weed off people, activities that drain your energy levels.
  18. Improve your physical appearance: Go for a new look. Get a new hairstyle. Look beautiful or well groomed.
  19. Keep A Diary/Journal: Your dairy could serve as a journal of your thoughts. Cultivate the habit of scribbling your thoughts on paper.
  20. Show Love: Spend time showing love to people. You could be nice, care for them, help the needy, buy gifts/presents………..
  21. Ideas: Come up with useful ideas for yourself, family, blog or business etc.
  22. Difficult Tasks: Develop an interest in resolving difficult tasks.
  23. Domestic chores: Enjoy spring cleaning and doing your own laundry. It could be fun at times.
  24. Start a business: You could start up a small business to gain your independence, fulfil your ambitions, and create an additional source of income.
  25. Get A Job: Go out and search for jobs. Don’t sit at home idle. If you are not happy with your current job, start looking for another.
  26. Work: Work Work Work !!!! There are little/no more opportunities for lazy people. Work at home, on your blog, profession, job etc. Display a high level of excellence in what you do.
  27. Lunch Break: The tip above said work,work, work!!But don’t neglect having a lunch break at work.
  28. Delegate or Outsource. Learn to delegate or outsource certain jobs/ responsibilities. It will allow you focus on other important things and save you so much time.
  29. Avoid Gossip: Being involved or listening to gossip is a big time waster. There are so many other productive things you can do with your time.
  30. Budget Your Finances: Spend some time planning your finances, repaying your loans, credit cards and working towards living a debt free life. It’s essential you have a monthly budget, allocating funds to things that are of high importance.
  31. Go shopping: I am sure the ladies will love this one lol!!! (My wife does). There is always a burst of excitement, pride, happiness, an increasing level of confidence, fulfilment associated with shopping and from experience it could raise one’s energy levels because we feel good about it.(Warning: Good practice is spending within your means, buying what is necessary and what you can afford.)
  32. Spend time with your children: Children need to understand family values, build good character, know that their parents will always love, support and care for them.
  33. Spend time with your spouse: Our spouses need time & attention too. Go for dinner, sight seeing etc. Do things together. This promotes better communication, understanding and builds healthier relationships.
  34. Meditate: Take time to meditate. It refreshes you spiritually and mentally.
  35. Sleep: Sleeping replenishes your strength after various activities in the day. It puts you in the right frame of mind and recharges your batteries.
  36. Relax: Go for a holiday, participate in several leisure activities. Take time out to rest/relax your body, mind, muscles etc. Go for a massage, spa treatment, aromatherapy………..
  37. Exercise: It is important you stay in good shape by exercising as often as you can. Apart from the healthy benefits, you would feel attractive, secure, confident and in shape.
  38. Walk: Take long walks. Spend time alone walking and reflecting your activities.
  39. Medical Check up: Go for regular medical check ups with your doctor.
  40. Eat Healthily: It is important you eat healthily and have balanced meals each day. Don’t forget your fruits!!!! Eat with moderation and watch what you eat.
  41. Study(Read): Spend time studying, reading and carrying out researches on various subjects. For you to become an authority in any subject, you’ve got to study hard.
  42. Hobby: Start a hobby. It could range from supporting your local football, basketball or baseball team to having pen pals, building….
  43. Get An Academic Qualification: I think it’s important you place a certain value or importance on boosting academic knowledge by going to schools, colleges or the university.
  44. Contribute to the community/society: Serve your community or borough. Volunteer your spare time to do something positive for the community or society. Sponsor various charity organizations.
  45. Cook: Spend time cooking. There is absolutely nothing wrong with it. It’s very exciting if you cook with your spouse and before the men start acting too macho for their boots, remember there good male cooks such as Jamie Oliver, Gordon Ramsay and my humble self laugh!!!.
  46. Spend Time with Friends: Have fun with your friends. You need friends for physical, mental, emotional and spiritual support. Friends are there to encourage you, make you laugh, challenge you and admonish you when necessary.
  47. Date: If you are ’single and searching’ go out on a date. Stop staying at home alone and go out on a date!!
  48. Networking: Establish positive networks with people of various fields, backgrounds, professions etc. Carefully join constructive groups on facebook and twitter.
  49. Go On  A Facebook/Twitter Strike: It wouldn’t cause any harm abandoning facebook/twitter in a day. Curb your addiction to social media. I am not jealous of those who have large followers on twitter or friends on facebook (I joined 2months ago lol!!!) but it’s important to exercise moderation in what you do. 
  50. Switch off the television/computer/mobile phone: Yes switch them off!!!(When necessary)  We are so engrossed in them. Switch off (silent) your phones, in order to get goodnights sleep, shut down your computer, and turn off the television because they could be a source of distraction.

Why do we do what we do, How can we do it better

21 10 2009

“Action is [Decisions are] not about resources, it is about resourcefulness”

“Emotional fitness, psychological strength…that’s what it is about”

It is not about desire, it is about needs. 6 needs:

  1. Certainty (uncertainty) “How many like suprise? Bullshit, we like suprises we want…all others are problems.”
  2. Significance
  3. Connection
  4. Love
  5. Need to Grow
  6. Contribute beyond Ourselves

First Armless Female Pilot and Other People Who Can’t, But Who CAN!

21 10 2009

People Don’t Give Up On Your Dreams, Don’t Give up On Life… Watch these People 😀

The Story behind Team Hoyt

My Favorite Books

16 10 2009

Childhood Favorite:

The Giver by Lois Lowry

Other great works:

The Problems of Philosophy by Bertrand Russell

Why I am not a Christian? By Bertrand Russell

Pride and Prejudice by Jane Austen

Cather in the Rye by J.D. Salinger

Informative Books:

Intelligence: From Secrets to Policy by Mark Lownthal

Average American Male by Chad Kultgen (easy read)

Most Recent Favorite:

4-hr Workweek by Timothy Ferriss

****Check out his blog:

Current Reads:

Wind, Sand, and Stars by Antoine de Saint-Exupery

Walden by Henry David Thoreau

The Tipping Point by Malcolm Gladwell

14 10 2009

The first principle is you must not fool yourself and your are the easiest person to fool. ~Richard P. Feynman, Nobel Prize winning physicist

I can’t give you a surefire formula for success, but I can give you formula for failure: try to please everybody all the time. ~Herbert Bayard Swope

I am an old man and have known a great many troubles, but most of them never happened. ~Mark Twain

If you don’t make mistakes, you’re not working on hard enough problems. And that’s a big mistake. ~Frank Wilczek, Nobel Prize winner

  1. The most important actions are never comfortable.
  2. Doing the Realistic is easier than doing the Unrealistic.
  3. Being busy if a form of mental laziness- lazy thinking and indiscriminate action.

~Tim Ferriss, Author of the 4-Hour Work Week